About Trish White
Counsellor in Kamloops, BC
Counselling in Kamloops, BC and Online Everywhere
It seems like the majority of my clients never expected to be looking for counselling. But something has changed. Life, in one form or another, has knocked you off your feet. You’ve been trying to decide if you need a doctor, a coach, or counsellor and, not knowing where to start, keeps you unmotivated, frozen and distracted.
That is a struggle I am all too familiar with. When I decided to finally sign up for counselling myself, I ended up with a crazy lady that seemed to think throwing Cheez Whiz jars at the dump would be helpful or the next guy that just sat and nodded. I wanted answers. That’s part of the reason I am here. Because I persisted and learned a few things along the way, I now want to reach my hand back to help someone who is a step behind me.
I started Trellis Coaching & Counselling because I believe in the transformative power of supportive guidance.
The right questions at the right time.
The new tool you didn’t know you needed.
Someone focussed on you, working with you to get where you want to go, or even decide where that is.
You need personalized care tailored to your unique needs. Offering a safe and non-judgmental space, enables you to explore your challenges, reflect on your experiences, and develop actionable strategies to overcome your obstacles.
Can You Relate?
Plan B Definition: a plan or method that you use if another one fails, or is likely to fail
No one sets out ready to implement Plan B. I certainly didn’t. I thought I had my game plan firmly in place a few decades ago. Unfortunately for me, and maybe for you, Plan A got railroaded by an unforeseen shift: Life.
Life happens. Things change. You change. I always wanted to go to school and have a career. Then that all changed. Plan B, for me involved putting education on hold so I could hold little hands. Tucking in tiny toes, mending scraped knees and taxi-ing kids with a silly song on auto-repeat, became what my life revolved around. Plan B's are often thrilling rides where you learn more about yourself and are often forced to grow in ways you never suspected you needed to. I started a business during this time related to another passion of mine - animals
Then one day, when the children become slightly more independent, I was passionately working my business, when a nagging feeling took hold. I was dissatisfied. What?!?! That was crazy talk. I loved what I did. I was good at it. But as I worked I found my mind returning to Plan A.
Heading back to school in your 40's isn't everyone's dream. I tried to avoid it for a bit. I worked harder at my business. I added a coaching certification...and the nagging feeling grew.
What was my purpose?
Why could I no longer just be content?
Why was I no longer jumping out of bed eager for the day?
I tried new hobbies and side hustles. Kayaking a new body of water every weekend became a goal and a distraction. But there's nothing like hours on a quiet lake to bring you face to face with those thoughts you've been trying to bury.
There was something more I should be about. But what? When you find yourself feeling unfulfilled, unhappy, unmotivated or uninspired, like I was, it's time to ask some hard questions.
Unfulfilled. Unhappy. Unmotivated. Uninspired.
It was time for Plan C. Is Plan C even a thing?
Life Coaching had revealed I really enjoyed walking with people through their struggles. It also showed me I needed more skills.
Plan C involved a few crazy years of running my business and heading back to graduate school. It was a crazy life juggle but I have emerged with a Master of Counselling Degree.
Coaching + Counselling = Perfect Combination for my Perfect Clients
Coaching and Counselling. To me the perfect combination. Sometimes you need a coach to help you move forward with your life and sometimes you need a counsellor to help you clean out the garbage that has accumulated along the way. Sometimes you need a counsellor to hear your painful story and sometimes you need a coach to help you write a new story. I'm happy to be both and feel it's especially important with the people I want to work with.
I have been trained to deal with a wide variety of struggles. My main focus though is with helping improve the mental health of those who don't seem to need it! They are showing up to work, mostly keeping up with their responsibilities but there are obstacles holding them back. Few other may know it, but they do.
My Specialties:
Betrayal Trauma
The heartbreak of betrayal and infidelity can shatter every area of your life.
For the Betrayed:
I work with the betrayed to heal from the trauma. I am an APSATS Clinician Candidate and receive supervision literally from those who have written the books on Betrayal Trauma. There is a path toward healing and I can walk with you through the steps.
For the Betrayer:
I offer coaching for those who have wounded their partner by their actions. Learn the strategies and and tools needed to help your partner heal. Too often we want tomove move through this quickly and get back to regular life but there are many things that we unknowingly do that can make this pain fester for years. Learn what you can do to help your partner heal.
For the Couple:
Although Couple’s Therapy is not advised early in this process, Early Couple Recovery Work is recommended. Maneuvering decisions and discussions can be like walking in a minefield. This work can help set you up for success by helping you manage the difficult areas of triggers, discoveries, disclosures and boundaries. There is a clear series of markers that need to be worked toward in order to heal.
Feeling Stuck?
Life happens and we ourselves wrestling with procrastination, avoidance, distraction waiting for motivation to show up. Often we end up where we don’t want to be and are unsure how to find our way back to who we were created to be. Don't settle. Derailed people that are back on track are the best people in the world. A new set of eyes on your circumstances can bring clarity, understanding and the possibilities of a path forward.
Worry, Stress & Anxiety
There are so many high functioning people that are working hard to push down that anxiety, or trying to deal with it quietly by themselves in the bathroom at work. If you're googling help for anxiety and hoping for some quick trick, I can assure you the quickest path is to discuss this with a trained counsellor. There's something about 2 brains in one room focussing on the issue that delivers results.
Qualifications:
Certified Canadian Counsellor (CCC) with the Canadian Counselling & Psychotherapy Association (#10004199)
Master of Counselling Degree
Internal Family Systems
Emotionally Focussed Training - Couples and Individual
Relational Life Therapy - Level 1
Trauma Specialist Certification with Janina Fischer
Narrative Therapy Training
I believe our lives are made of stories. There are stories about you that you have forgotten in light of your present difficulties. There are stories about you that need shoring up – like the one where you are incredibly resilient with unbelievable internal strength. It also means I want to walk with you to help make the outline for better chapters ahead.
APSATS Training
Association of Partners of Sexual Addiction Trauma Specialist. Not all addiction is created equal. Partners and spouses of those struggling with chronic problematic sexual behaviours have a particularly difficult road to walk. They have suffered a betrayal trauma that hits at their core. There are special skills needed to walk with these brave souls and I’ve been trained in the Multi-dimensional Partner Trauma Model and am currently in the process of certification. I do not believe partners are automatically codependent.
ASIST Training
Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training. Do you have suicidal thoughts? Talk to me. It’s not uncommon and it needs to be talked about.
“My clients are warriors who are fighting hard to maintain their mental health. Day after day they have shown up. They get dressed. They work. They pay the bills. They face the lies. They keep their houses, jobs, and lives functioning...but inside they are aware it's time to make some changes.
Some of you even know what changes you want to make but can't seem to make the plan stick. It's time to switch things up...do something different.” Trish White, MC, CCC, CTS, CCTS - C
It's Time to Explore: Undivided. Unleashed. Unstoppable.
You aren't sure if you need a coach or counsellor. That's why I'm both.
Someone who understands. Someone willing to offer a hand.
Someone who wants to help you write a new chapter..
Trellis Coaching & Counselling: Supporting your Growth
Other Things You Might Want to Know:
I've spent most of my life living in small prairie town. I have also lived in Toronto. Between that smallness and that largeness is the beautiful city of Kamloops, BC that I love to call home.
I’m a mother, sister, grandmother, and friend. I have 3 fantastic grown children that return often bringing love and laughter.
I love Kayaking. There is no better feeling...sun and buoyancy. Fighting waves or floating with a book...these are a few of my favourite things.
I love knitting. It helps my scattered brain and twitchy body relax and focus. I've never been diagnosed ADHD but I can definitely relate.
I'm pretty passionate about animals in general. Dogs are fantastic. Cats are amazing. Between them they make pretty much everything better.
Plants. For several years I couldn't keep them alive. I can now. I think that bodes well for you.
I like to laugh...and I totally get sarcasm...but that wasn't meant to be sarcastic. I do like to laugh. Seriously, life shouldn't be that serious.
That's Enough About Me. Let's Talk About You
Phone: 1-833-630-2010
Or Email: trish@trishwhite.ca