Betrayal Trauma

The world of the internet has unleashed an epidemic of cheating culture on us. 
Snapchat, private messages, Tinder and other apps are reeking havoc in our relationships.



Cheated On and Betrayed?

How I Can Help

✅Compassionate support for those who have been betrayed.

It is not your fault. You need specific support and not for someone to blame, shame or make it your issue. I am a Partner Trauma Specialist trainee and can help you find the path toward healing.

✅Empathy Coaching for those who did the betraying.

It is a horrible place to be in to be the one who did the betraying. Feeling the guilt and shame of it all can often shut you down. Most often you don't want to talk about it and want to just put the past behind you and move on. Fortunately, there is a path through this. There are tools and strategies that can speed up the healing process. Know what to do when your partner is triggered. Know how to respond when you are asked the same questions over and over. How the offending partner responds to the person he/she has hurt can either speed up the healing process, stall the process or delay the healing indefinitely. Learn your role in helping your partner heal. Expand your relational tools so you can create the marriage or partnership you've always wanted.

✅Early Intervention Couple's Work for those in the crisis of a painful betrayal discovery.

This is not the time for couple's counselling. There are some important steps crucial to your relationship before you can work on the coupleship. I will walk you through this crucial crisis time and show you the road map toward healing.

✅Canadian Online Groups for Betrayed Partners. If you are interested in a group, send me a message. Groups are offered according to availability.

✅Privacy for Partners of those charged with a sex related charge.. Sometimes there is no place to talk about how this is affecting you...this is the place. We are safe, compassionate, confidential. Email me: trish@trishwhite.ca

Shattered, Heartbroken, Lost...and a Whole Lot More

When you find out or suspect you have been betrayed by the one you love, it can throw you into a tailspin and have a significant impact on every single area of your life.

EVERY... SINGLE...AREA...Physically, our bodies often start breaking down in one way or another. It often is like our body is also betraying us. Mentally, we find ourselves scattered, forgetful, unfocussed and unmotivated. Our minds spin and are often bombarded with thoughts we don't want rolling around in our heads.  Your self-esteem has taken a massive blow. Emotionally, we can experience a roller coaster sometimes daily, often hourly.  Relationally, you find yourself pushing away from people and anxiously desiring someone to be there for you at the same time.  Spiritually, it can cause you to question the very foundations you have built your life on.  

Hold on.  There's Hope. 

When the very person that is supposed to be closest to us and entrusted with the role of loving, protecting and caring for us has been unfaithful, our entire world feels like it's caving in.  The resulting damage is a form of trauma that brings intrusive thoughts, invasive memories, guilt, shame, anger, depression, anxiety, self-worth issues and a host of other complex problems.  The pain is very real.  

As a counsellor I offer a safe place to unpack the hurt you are going through.  There is a path forward. I will not slap you with a label and question what you did to cause this.  When you didn't even know this was happening, that is so very unfair. We will work together to make sense of your current reality.  We will grab some tools to calm your raging mind and rebuild your sense of self. I can help you develop boundaries that are necessary for you to feel safe again.  I will walk you through the next steps you need to take. You will not be alone in your pain. There is a path to healing and an order to the process that you need to walk through.  

Traumatic events like this change everything in our world.  Often we no longer are able to recognize the person we have become.  We struggle to make sense of how to live the life we now face day to day. 

You deserve one on one care to work through these issues whether you stay in the marriage or not. Before you move forward in the relationship or without it, you need to recover from this trauma. You need to work through how this has affected you or you will continue to experience trauma triggers into the future, sabotaging this or any further relationships.  

Quick Start

If you need a place to start and want to get a feel for me as a counsellor, here is a podcast where I was interviewed by Betrayal Trauma Recovery: 

Self-care for Betrayal Victims

Self-care and Betrayal Trauma

Counselling: Online or In-Person

If you would like to work with me, here are 2 options:

1.  Free 15-min Phone Consultation.  If you have questions for me or want to see if I am someone you could connect with, you can either book your own free phone consultation here   Or email me at trish@trishwhite.ca to set up an appointment.

2.  First Session: If you are ready to jump right in, you can use this link to book an appointment:  Or you can email me at trish@trishwhite.ca and let me know what days/times work best for you.  I will find a time that works for both of us and get back to you.  

When you have been wounded in a relationship,

the best healing comes through safe, caring empathic relationships.